In ziplock baggie, add marinade ingredients. Whisk or squish around to mix well. Add chicken pieces, remove excess air from baggie, squish around again to coat all the pieces of chicken, *and place into a bowl. (*I like to place the baggie into a bowl because sometimes those baggies do leak.) Marinate for at least 6 hours or overnight, turning now and then.
Preheat oven to 350º F. Remove chicken pieces with tongs, place into a shallow, sprayed, baking dish. Bake for 45 minutes, uncovered. (Discard marinade.)
Preheat grill to about 375º F. While grill is preheating, nuke butter to melt in a small glass measuring pitcher. Add rest of basting/dipping sauce ingredients, and whisk to mix. Pour out about half into finger bowls (small dipping bowls).
When grill is hot, place chicken pieces onto oiled grill grates. Baste frequently, turning pieces as needed, until lightly charred and fully done. About 20 - 30 minutes depending on the size of the wings. *Don't worry about the charring, more is BETTER!! Those were the ones we about fought over!
Enjoy! And don't forget to dip the fall-off-the-bone-tender meat into more of the dipping sauce! SO good!